I recently looked at joining a 'social networking' site- pertaining to gay women.
On creating my user rpofile I was asked to describe myself, if I wished, in one of the following categories...
Femme, Lipstick Lesbian, Soft Butch, Androgynous, and some others which I definitely didn't fit.
So- how do I know? May I say I have been out a number of years but always struggled with categories- some of my friends just call me 'homely'