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^ Sometimes it is easier to lie to get out of a situation.
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Why do people lie?

I can only assume it is because they cannot handle/deal with the truth.

Even worse, why do people tell lies about you behind your back?
Because they are worse than you, they are dealing with their own  unhappiness in that way, they are simply sick but don't last for long  ;D
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Why do people lie?

I can only assume it is because they cannot handle/deal with the truth.

Even worse, why do people tell lies about you behind your back?
Because they are worse than you, they are dealing with their own  unhappiness in that way, they are simply sick but don't last for long  ;D

Very true. If only everyone in the world could just be honest and truthful.

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^ Sometimes it is easier to lie to get out of a situation.

Occasionally...... If you want to protect a friend rather than hurt her feelings... For example..If she says, I love this dress, I feel so happy and confident in it.... Then it's ok to agree with her and tell a white lie because her happiness is what is important. But... other than that, No way. Liars are not good. Fake people. Incapable of telling the truth, meaning they cannot be trusted. Honesty is the best policy.

I cannot stand liars. It means they are dishonest and not to be trusted under any circumstances.

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I very rarely lie. I am probably going to lie to someone soon about a surprise present I received in the post and haven't thanked them for yet. I didn't do that immediately (because I was on my way out the door to visit my mother-in-law for the weekend when I found it) and that makes me feel terrible. I was going to lie and say it got buried under some newspapers and I only just found it, but I hate lying, so I still haven't done it. Actually, now, I think I should phone him up and tell him exactly this. Thanks Marty!

I was (not legally) married to a compulsive liar for over a decade and didn't even realise for most of that time. I thought she lied a lot to other people, but I thought she wouldn't do that to me ::). Eventually, that pretty much cured me of any lying I might have done myself. Even those white lies about nice dresses etc, I try to work around by complimenting some aspect that I genuinely like. E.g., hideous dress with gorgeous buttons: 'Don't you just love my new dress?' - 'Wow, those buttons are fantastic!'

Since I started doing this, I find my relationships with the world at large have improved. Sometimes I give those kind of compliments unasked now, which I never used to. And no, that doesn't always mean I think your dress or shirt is hideous if I compliment the buttons! I mean, I learned from this that people love a meaningful compliment. Spread a little happiness!


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Yes, LFL. authenticity then attracts authentic people and good relationships. Sometimes people lie and they hurt themselves most because they can't form relationships with people without trust. Without trust it is not possible to have any relationship. They end up alone.
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I very rarely lie. I am probably going to lie to someone soon about a surprise present I received in the post and haven't thanked them for yet. I didn't do that immediately (because I was on my way out the door to visit my mother-in-law for the weekend when I found it) and that makes me feel terrible. I was going to lie and say it got buried under some newspapers and I only just found it, but I hate lying, so I still haven't done it. Actually, now, I think I should phone him up and tell him exactly this. Thanks Marty!

I was (not legally) married to a compulsive liar for over a decade and didn't even realise for most of that time. I thought she lied a lot to other people, but I thought she wouldn't do that to me ::). Eventually, that pretty much cured me of any lying I might have done myself. Even those white lies about nice dresses etc, I try to work around by complimenting some aspect that I genuinely like. E.g., hideous dress with gorgeous buttons: 'Don't you just love my new dress?' - 'Wow, those buttons are fantastic!'

Since I started doing this, I find my relationships with the world at large have improved. Sometimes I give those kind of compliments unasked now, which I never used to. And no, that doesn't always mean I think your dress or shirt is hideous if I compliment the buttons! I mean, I learned from this that people love a meaningful compliment. Spread a little happiness!

You are very welcome Lust for Life and congratulations on your new job.  :D

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I am about to buy my first dishwasher   :o.  When purchasing a flat or house what is more important.  Do you want a decent size kitchen?  Fortunately i have a good size kitchen but i have been in some homes where the kitchen is so small that you can just about get two people in and there is no room to move.  Also i must have a bathroom with a bath.  Some bathrooms in flats just have a shower.    So what do you go for?   A friend of mine has her own flat with a tiny kitchen and she can just about move in it but she has a patio garden.   I would rather have a larger kitchen.  Having a balcony or patio are not important.  If i want to sit out i can go to the park.
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