Author Topic: Are we becoming complacant ?  (Read 3439 times)

lizbeth321

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Are we becoming complacant ?
« on: Nov 27, 2007, 05:36:05 PM »
My g/f and I have been together for nearly 2 yrs and 9 mths.
We live apart, and most tof the time she cums to my place for the wked. Most of the time we mite go out for a meal, walk the dog, then its watch telly !!!
Yes we are relaxing after a busy wk, and yes again we both decided wot we are goign to do but cant help thinking that sumthing is  missing !!!!

Complaceant or not ?

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #1 on: Nov 27, 2007, 05:37:31 PM »
Maybe, or maybe you've just learn't to relax in each other's company.

What do you feel you are missing?

I gather you both have children so you're not going to go out partying or have spontaneous trips away.
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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #2 on: Nov 27, 2007, 05:39:11 PM »
It's not complacent if it's what you enjoy.  If you genuinely think there is something missing though, why don't you try different things?
.... which is nice.

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #3 on: Nov 27, 2007, 05:40:49 PM »
We both have grown up children .
We used to go out all the time and spend ALL NITE chatting and not sleeping.

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #4 on: Nov 27, 2007, 05:52:01 PM »
We both have grown up children .
We used to go out all the time and spend ALL NITE chatting and not sleeping.

It happens.  It's not a bad thing unless you think it is.  While that initial not sleeping etc is great, personally I would go mad if it was like that all the time.  As long as you're having fun whatever you're doing now, then that's the important thing, not that you are still doing whatever you were doing.
.... which is nice.

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #5 on: Nov 27, 2007, 05:53:43 PM »
The fun thing seems to haave fizzled out a bit ?

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #6 on: Nov 27, 2007, 05:56:31 PM »
Fun is a very emotive word.  I don't have as much 'fun' as I did in my twenties, but have become much more content. 

However, if you want to have more fun, then take the initiative!  Don't just trot along expecting it to happen to you.
.... which is nice.

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #7 on: Nov 27, 2007, 05:57:47 PM »
The fun thing seems to haave fizzled out a bit ?

Like BOB says the problem is that you feel that way not necessarily that things have changed. Do you feel like you're making the effort to keep things "fun" and she's not?

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #8 on: Nov 27, 2007, 05:58:13 PM »
However, if you want to have more fun, then take the initiative!  Don't just trot along expecting it to happen to you.

Oh you beat me to it! :P

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #9 on: Nov 27, 2007, 06:01:50 PM »
I want to 'Run bare footed in the park in the rain' She refuses !
I want to 'walk Bare foot on the beach in the moon lite' Cant seem to time that one rite.

Neither of us make the effort ( thats the problem ).
She is not bothered by this I am .

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #10 on: Nov 27, 2007, 06:10:43 PM »
I want to 'Run bare footed in the park in the rain' She refuses !
I want to 'walk Bare foot on the beach in the moon lite' Cant seem to time that one rite.

Neither of us make the effort ( thats the problem ).
She is not bothered by this I am .

Hmmm... to be honest this reminds me of my last relationship... She wanted to always be doing new stuff but never initiated it or organised it and I was happy doing what we were doing. She complained a lot but did nothing to change it. She wanted me to change it but I didn't see why I should...

Do you talk about it?

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #11 on: Nov 27, 2007, 06:12:57 PM »
Reguarding the talking ( I have planted the seed)

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #12 on: Nov 27, 2007, 06:14:28 PM »
I want to 'Run bare footed in the park in the rain' She refuses !
I want to 'walk Bare foot on the beach in the moon lite' Cant seem to time that one rite.

Neither of us make the effort ( thats the problem ).
She is not bothered by this I am .

If you don't make the effort, and she's not bothered about it, then it's your issue rather than hers.  If you do make the effort, you never know, she might enjoy it and thank you for it, and make more effort in future!
.... which is nice.

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #13 on: Nov 27, 2007, 08:59:03 PM »
If you don't go out and get an exciting life first then she might do it without you and then someone else might take charge of her pencil case, you can get matching ipod videos (ask your kids) :)

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Re: Are we becoming complacant ?
« Reply #14 on: Nov 27, 2007, 09:02:12 PM »
I think fun is like the froth on a cappuccino. It's nice to get it on your face once in a while, but ultimately it is empty and a bit of a con.

Being bored, however, would be more of a problem.