And lets never forget its very easy to catch Herpes through oral sex. Just becasue we are lesbians does not mean we are immune. It can feel like a tiny pimple on your tonge but thats all it takes.
conversely, it's very easy to tell someone that you have active herpes and restrict play/sex accordingly. Takes two to tango etc.
True. But you assume first that your gf knows she carries the virus ( herpes or any other STDs with no developed symptoms) and secondly that even if she does she is happy to mention it ( think about monogamous relationship and the destructive weight of an affair
I have always practiced safe sex, except when in long term ish relationships... Guess what? I caught a STD and knowing it takes a few weeks to a few months to develop the symptoms if ever when carrying the virus, and that I had slept only with one person at the time and over a few years period, my then gf or in fact ex-gf by the time it was detected. Who do you think pass me the virus?
So yes it takes two to tango....
oh and another note not all the STIs are passed through oral sex, some are passed through skin to skin contacts...This
is also a good link to find out more about common STIs.
Finally safe sex also means being able to communicate when you know that you carry a virus, whether you are engaged in sexual activities as parts of ONS or a more committed relationship. "Telling a partner that you have any type of STI, can be a difficult and challenging experience. Some partners may react by needing some time to think about how this affects your relationship. Some partners may have a lot of questions, might want to get tested themselves, and might make the decision not to have sex for a while. It's completely normal to feel frustrated, depressed, angry, or guilty about having an STI . But by taking care of your health, practicing safer sex, and informing yourself and your partners, you are taking all the necessary steps to minimize the risk of recurrences and transmitting the virus to others"