ok so am now a newbe with some wonderful menories and experences
1. talk, always if ya cant talk to the person ya playin with why do ya wanna play
2. ask anyone anythin, every1 i've meet has been more than happy to answer my questions
3. if ya wanna try out somethin ask around about who good at it, make it an experence of feelins, you mite start out thinkin 'oh i wouldnt like that' and end up lovin it. or the other way round.
4. lists =good idea to look through weather you use them or not, gives you ideas and can make you wonder down a path you never noticed be4
as afr as usin them they are a great way of buildin understandin with a play partner but thats just worked for me, its all personal, and we were sort of time
5. be honest with ur self, if you dont ya'll never find out all the amazin stuff that could be pat of ya playin. if a a top like me, findin out ya a switch can be a head fuck, but as long as ya honest ya get there
hugs to ya all