Ettiquete - what does a beginner need to know?

[DaddyBear]

http://www.fetishexchange.org/bdsm-checklist.shtml


Funny the boi and I were just saying the other night he should get a small card (like a business card) made up of NO's *grin* to give to other people ..... as sometimes the excitement of the moment can make you forget things .....

There is a piccie there that GB may have a problem with?  I don't want to scare the Moderators ... have been chastised by them already 

nope both links I have posted are ironically work safe .... apart perhaps from the website name ... but this is the dungeon and if you can't look at work ... then you'll have to contain yerself and look at home *grin wink*

Y would you scare the moderators? I put this links up .... you looking at them has nothing to do with the board as they are external from here and will open in a new browser window .... I don't think the moderators are mind police or internet police *grin*

mmm I agree with Daddy AJ  lists can kinda give you ideas .... bit like going to the workshops in Berlin, Manachester and A'dam you end up thinking well I know a bit about fire play, needles, electricity but *wow* I never thought of that fanfuckingtastic!!! *GRIN*

I will never stop learning about SM from both sides of the dynamic coin .... thats the best thing you can always find out more ... anyone who pretends to know it all is quite frankly not someone I want to know (and lying!! )

It's like a hobby that keeps you intrested and horny .....

[pure evil]

It's like a hobby that keeps you intrested and horny .....

carries on building small replica dungeon out of matchsticks

[DaddyBear]

It's like a hobby that keeps you intrested and horny .....

carries on building small replica dungeon out of matchsticks

or a model box small model people and dungeon equipment (don't laugh until you have visited The Model Shop) ..... 'look little sub I'll show you what I am going to do to you by means of this cleaverly crafted model box .....'


<---- must get out more

[fetishkitty]

I understand this point of view, but it's something we talked about at the sm dykes meeting on Sunday. Some people - newbies and even some more experienced - don't know what they like/want.

Aaaah...I see.  Personally (and this is just a personal preference) I prefer to play with people who have at least an inkling of what makes them hot.  I need a modicum of self-knowledge to work with...and whilst it's always good to introduce someone to something totally new which they hadn't thought about before, I like to know I'm in the right ballpark...

kitty

[Bertie]

This is a really good thread.

Can it be made sticky?

[DaddyBear]

This is a really good thread.

Can it be made sticky?

only if you get rid of the freaky goat ..... man it's like a bad acid trip dude *lmfao*



*lol* 

[jad]

Can it be made sticky?

Oh i'm pretty sure the Dungeoneers can find away to do that

Did you have a sticky substance in mind

[assada]

Hi guys, ok big time newbie here, first post... just discovered this site, the scene and trying to learn a bit before venturing out...

I guess I thought I was more 'experienced' than I am because power, domination and submission etc has been a long running theme in my relationships.  But on coming to this forum I'm beginning to feel like I'll need a PhD in BDSM before I'll have the confidence to go out to play and that I haven't intellectualised my desires to anywhere near the degree that seems common (and it is a joy to read intelligent analysis of this stuff.  Intellectually and sexually!)

I guess my immediate issue is this.  My main inclination is to dom.  But if I go to a club I think I'd feel too self conscious at first, performance anxiety!  Is there any help at hand in terms of tutoring from more experienced doms?  What has helped others to go from private to public?

Yours, on learning curve... 

[pure evil]

  But if I go to a club I think I'd feel too self conscious at first, performance anxiety!  Is there any help at hand in terms of tutoring from more experienced doms?  What has helped others to go from private to public?

Yours, on learning curve... 

hiya, what about coming along to the next S/M dykes south east meeting? its a chance to chat and meet other people....also Klub Fukk and Purr are good places to meet, talk and watch other people play.
with playing in public....maybe to keep in mind that it can be an added rush to play in public....especially if you are an exhibitionist.  if you get to know a few people first it might help to break the 'performance anxiety'.

[Mistress Vamp]

I guess my immediate issue is this.  My main inclination is to dom.  But if I go to a club I think I'd feel too self conscious at first, performance anxiety!  Is there any help at hand in terms of tutoring from more experienced doms?  What has helped others to go from private to public?

Yours, on learning curve... 

There is no pressure to play in any of the play clubs, you can just go along and meet people, watch what is going on and see how people play. At Purrr myself and Morphia are always willing to give a hand, and you will meet many people who are willing to give you guidance (it's just a case of getting to know people). We also have a couple of private rooms at Purrr where you could play in private if you wished.

[marzipan gnome]

performance anxiety in public exists for the sub/bottom too ya know.

perhaps the first time forget the elaborate role play and go for something understated?  pairing up can be good too if the other person had played publicly. co-top, co-bottom. 2 for 1 deals. 

[assada]

Thanks for the reality check!  Had a moment of too-much-internet-information-can't-compute!  So will take the advice to chill, get to know people and let things evolve at a comfortable pace, and in what appears to be a supportive environment.  Cool... thanks to those who've responded 

[Bertie]

This is a really good thread.

Can it be made sticky?

only if you get rid of the freaky goat ..... man it's like a bad acid trip dude *lmfao*



*lol* 

And as if by magic, someone stole my goat..... 

[Woofy Bear]

SAFE: All parties have taken the necessary precautions to prevent psychological and physical damage to themselves, including the transmission of any disease.

SANE: All parties are in possession of their mental faculties and are aware of the risks involved in the intended play.

CONSENSUAL: All parties understand the potential risk involved and have
consented to these activities. This consent can be withdrawn or modified at any time.

[Hockney]

This is a really good thread.

Can it be made sticky?

only if you get rid of the freaky goat ..... man it's like a bad acid trip dude *lmfao*



*lol* 

And as if by magic, someone stole my goat..... 

Should I be concerned that I can still see the goat?