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[fluffybunnykins]

I've used that list a lot in my life but not in a "here's a list and fill it out before we play" way.

It's usually done with a play partner during pillow talk and the "hey wanna do this list together?" like a cosmo quiz kind of way (but not using the numbers just in a "yeah I'd like to try that" or "em...") where it's talked and discussed and giggled and ooo'd over - not a mechanical fill in the form.

And since I switch with the same people I top/bottom/domme/sub... we both get a better idea of what each of us likes.

But I don't play publicly anymore. And I tend not to take on extra play partners much. rare occation, but it wouldn't involve a list. Too much energy for a one-off.

[pinkjelly_beans]

Here is a VERY SIMPLISTIC VIEW......
Being a beginner is a one and only experience.  You will never have the opportunity to experience the watching and then that talking and then the playing in the same way ever again.  Treasure this time.
Take is slowly, talk on line to a few people who are obviously experienced but not necessarily what you think you want.  Just say Hi.  Find out a few ideas, views, nice people to chat to.
Get to chat to a few 'good guys' and ask them to support you on your first experience.  I did that and had such a wonderful weekend in Mancehster years ago.  Thanks to those poeple. 
Dont expect to have to know it all, do it all, take it all.
Watch and learn  Be respectful of watching, they may not appreciate it especially if they are 'round a corner' or what seems to be in a self contained area.
This is your jounrney and you are the driver. Go as fast or as slow as you want and you will never regret it.
Enjoy/
There are some very decent people on here.

[Priapism]

what a veritable feast of info, will read when theres time.

[softlysoftly]

This is your jounrney and you are the driver. Go as fast or as slow as you want and you will never regret it


this is so true!! why rush !!
thanks pink jellybeans words of wisdom

[Bi_Jackie43]

 ???I'm very submissive and new and lost!

[Sue49]

hya I am a sub/slave in London..When is your next meet.. I would love to come.

[Blueness]

hya I am a sub/slave in London..When is your next meet.. I would love to come.

Try www.purrr.co.uk

or come to Bar Wotever on a Tuesday evening. They also have KF downstairs once a month at Central Station.

http://www.woteverworld.com/

[Galadriel]

What does a beginner need to know? THIS:

Trust your instinct; if you're not COMPLETELY comfortable (ly numb) back off and wait for the next time. (ANNNNNticipation is fine)

It's easy to be seduced by the want and need to prove yourself - Don't do it until until you have developed your own power.

Our own power is easily overlooked - it takes time and a need to look inside ourselves and play with friends and lovers in a private and intimate space. If you choose to skip this bit you might lose confidence. Or... be at the mercy of others.... Maybe a wonderful thought. But do you know what that really means? The needing and wanting to be 'in it all' can be a bit of a disappointment in reality.. unless you have developed your own POWER! And you can. The power to be dominant or submissive or a switch or none of those things. They are only labels.  And don't let them convince you otherwise. x Etiquette is a paradigm created. Rarely challenged.