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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29640 on: Jan 14, 2018, 06:22:42 PM »
I would have called the police ages ago.  Beggars at your door is harassment. 
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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29641 on: Jan 14, 2018, 08:45:30 PM »
I definitely feel harrassed. When I can see it's her through the spy hole, I don't answer the door and I keep the buzzer turned off so she can't keep buzzing to get into the building but in the morning, she can press the trades button and get in and she knocks on my door but I don't answer it. Once my cats were out so I had to open the door but I kept the chain on and she said, can I have a word and I said, I'm not opening the door and then she was asking me loads of questions. It's not very nice that she can get into the building in the morning and I sometimes leave the security door open for my cats but now I can't do that because she walked in one day and my front door was open so I couldn't avoid her.  :-\

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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29642 on: Jan 14, 2018, 10:47:30 PM »
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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29643 on: Jan 14, 2018, 11:04:09 PM »
@ c&m and Marty: I gave a beggar half my lunch once and they were really pissed off. It was not a top lunch day, I admit, but I was eating it ::)

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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29644 on: Jan 15, 2018, 12:52:00 AM »
@ c&m and Marty: I gave a beggar half my lunch once and they were really pissed off. It was not a top lunch day, I admit, but I was eating it ::)

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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29645 on: Jan 18, 2018, 02:07:23 PM »
sorry i do not hand money over to people on the street.  I give them food instead

If everyone gave only food then all the beggars would be very full but still have no money to feed the meter.

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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29646 on: Jan 18, 2018, 02:25:38 PM »
I saw one today sitting begging.  He looked well groomed nice cut hair and was wearing decent clothes.   Around the corner was another one with holes in his shoes.  Dirty unwashed straggly long hair and he was drinking a bottle of wine.
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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29647 on: Jan 18, 2018, 04:29:05 PM »
Maybe he had a good haircut because someone gave him money not a big mac. Giving money isn't obligatory - but thinking you can give someone 50p then judge them for their choices isn't right.

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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29648 on: Jan 18, 2018, 09:59:49 PM »
Also we've no idea when they became homeless either - I hate people who criticise homeless people for having a mobile phone - something that could've been a possession before becoming homeless, and either way, a complete lifeline.

It's so complicated.

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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29649 on: Jan 18, 2018, 10:27:18 PM »
It's easy to judge beggars as having made worse decisions than you, but very often, people in worse (or better) situations than you aren't there because they tried less (or tried harder). Life is differentially difficult for everyone in a random, unmeritocratic way.

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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29650 on: Jan 19, 2018, 07:38:32 AM »
Actually I am pretty random and un meritocratic in this too. Apart from trying to feed people and helping them to access services, I do sometimes just give them money.

Since watching the film about the cat who rescued a man living on the street, I realised that there is an importance to helping keep someone alive through the bad times. And yes, for me, this is in the hope that they will be able to turn things around at some point in the future. There's no guarantee that they will manage that, but they definitely won't if they're dead.

We are all somebody's son or daughter. Of course, that may be part of the problem, but most people want their best for their child when they are born, at least. Not many people would actually wish this on their child. We grow up, we become independent. Sometimes we screw up. Sometimes we are lucky enough to come back from the depths.
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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29651 on: Jan 19, 2018, 11:11:51 AM »
I am in awe of your talents as a flautist  :-[
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Re: What do you want to tell her??
« Reply #29652 on: Jan 19, 2018, 08:47:50 PM »
Your beautiful and strong, everday you amaze me more