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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #15 on: Dec 13, 2005, 02:28:04 PM »
I think those costs are about average. And then of course you have to pay for venue hire too, if you aren't doing it in a registry office.

Bloody hell, if I'd known marriage was going to be this expensive maybe I wouldn't have campaigned so hard for it  ::)

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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #16 on: Dec 13, 2005, 08:23:11 PM »
Bloody hell, if I'd known marriage was going to be this expensive maybe I wouldn't have campaigned so hard for it  ::)

Nah, the fees are ok.  
Especially if you think of future inheritance tax savings.

Also I've spent more than that on a pair of shoes* on impulse before, and getting civilly partnered is so much more sensible.  :D ::)

*and not just shoes.  ::)
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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #17 on: Dec 13, 2005, 10:10:33 PM »
we have been discussing our ceremony today

so far we have decided that:
1. we are going to have very very simple vows,
and
2. I will read Donne's poem The Good Morrow - cos I read it to  her the morning after our first shag night together, as it sums it all up for me ...

The good-morrow
 
I WONDER by my troth, what thou, and I  
Did, till we lov'd? were we not wean'd till then?  
But suck'd on country pleasures, childishly?  
Or snorted we in the seven sleepers den?  
T'was so; But this, all pleasures fancies be.          
If ever any beauty I did see,  
Which I desir'd, and got, t'was but a dream of thee.  
   
And now good morrow to our waking souls,  
Which watch not one another out of fear;  
For love, all love of other sights controls,    
And makes one little room, an every where.  
Let sea-discoverers to new worlds have gone,  
Let Maps to other, worlds on worlds have shown,  
Let us possess one world, each hath one, and is one.  
   
My face in thine eye, thine in mine appears,  
And true plain hearts do in the faces rest,  
Where can we find two better hemispheres  
Without sharp North, without declining West?  
What ever dies, was not mixed equally;  
If our two loves be one, or, thou and I    
Love so alike, that none do slacken, none can die.
Begin doing what you want to do now.

We are not living in eternity.

We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand and melting like a snowflake.

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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #18 on: Jan 05, 2006, 05:05:53 PM »
How to deal with the fact that we are not planing to invite any blood-relatives?
Whos gonna give you away??? I recently watched friends where ross gave carol away to susan because her father refused to go. I thought that was sweet.

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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #19 on: Jan 05, 2006, 06:10:24 PM »
we wont be having any giving away!  


we are just giving ourselves --- freely and independently  :)
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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #20 on: Jan 16, 2006, 09:17:32 PM »
hi

I dunno about the forms, but we've just beento fix up the details for our party, and it feels great!
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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #21 on: Jan 16, 2006, 09:41:51 PM »
We gave notice the other day, accompanied by the 5-year-old - she answered nearly all the questions before we did, & was most annoyed that she didn't get to sign the forms too.

That's a beautiful poem Suze. I hope you have a wonderful day  :D
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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #22 on: Jan 18, 2006, 11:28:33 AM »
We had our proper wedding years ago where we said what we thought of eachother (thankfully it was all good stuff !) in front of friends. We wanted a religion free wedding but did find some nice buddist readings from various books in the library.

We're also doing the partnership thingy in the spring. I know you havce to register your intentions a few weeks before and you need 2 witnesses.

We're gonna get a crowd of close firends to come and then go for a nice lunch / dinner afterwards .

Hope yours goes well !

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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #23 on: Jan 25, 2006, 01:55:05 PM »

"The difficulty that is marriage - Paul Durcan

We disagree to disagree, we divide, we differ;
Yet each night as I lie in bed beside you
And you are faraway curled up in sleep
I array the moonlit ceiling with a mosaic of question-marks;
How was it I was so lucky to have ever met you?
I am no brave pagan proud of my mortality
Yet gladly on this changeling earth I should live for ever
If it were with you, my sleeping friend.
I have my troubles, and I shall always have them
But I would rather live with you for ever
Than exhange my troubles for a changeless kingdom.
But I do not put you on a pedestal or throne;
You must have your faults but I do not see them.
If it were with you, I should live for ever."

God, that's lovely

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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #24 on: Feb 04, 2006, 07:00:22 PM »

hi again,  I sort of feel like this is turning into my own little wedding blog..

we did quite a bit towards it this weekend.  

Last night we were round at a friend's house and he was singing some tunes for us so that we can choose what we have him sing at the ceremony...

 I was blown away cos he's got a really lovely voice, which I didn't know - but the other day I just said to him that we'd like people  to do a bit at the wedding: "what can you do?" and he said he would sing ...

We are thinking at the moment that we'll get him to do the Eurythmics song about angels in my heart ---- which is pretty groovy sung live without any accompaniment ... I was well impressed.

We've also booked a very tacky stretch limo to take us and several of the guests over to the ceremony place ....  which was great fun too, it's gonna be decked out with pink ribbons, pink flowers, and we're gonna have Pink Lady Fizz and play Abba!    :D

and we talked to the very lovely guy who is going to decorate the evening venue - with balloons and stuff - and he was so enthusiastic ..
and we popped into the eveing venue, and they are working on their stuff, and the woman who is making my bodice is making progress and I'm going for a fitting in a few days ...

so we've just had this lovely feeling of people being keen and excited and it's been just great....

we also bought two dozen more bottles of sparking wine, cos Tescos have got our favourite cava at 1/2 price !     :)
Begin doing what you want to do now.

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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #25 on: Feb 11, 2006, 10:48:16 PM »
OH JOY OH RAPTURE
the blog goes on -

we also got news from an acquaintance who is a really good photgrapher that he will re-arrange his photo shoots for his next book(!!)  to come and take our pictures --- oh how great is that?

we ordered the flowers today - which was a pleasure

and we are really struggling over the words for the promises, basically I dont think we want to say very much!

oh, and do you like this?

our poet mate wrote this for us after she went out to watch an eclipse of the moon some years ago -- if we can get it past the registrar we'll have it in the service - if not we'll just have ot have it read at the meal!

that date in the title isn't the date of the eclipes, though, it is the date of me and B's first night together!


Eclipse of the Moon
December 1992
For S and B


Light, a living curve, filled two cupped hands:
brilliant silvered peace soaked through thirsty
stones into the sodden earth.  The air clear
as cold water, sheened through with moonlight.

Marking the slow hour, a dark mouth opened,
a black tongue licked down to the last crescent
and past that sliver of light; melting to dissolution.  

Hill, tree and wind merged
into the same shadow, swallowed,

drawn in, leaving the taste of clean rain.

The dark wait began: an inhalation
held, pent in pounded ribs, until the pulse broke.

Over the bare shoulder of the hill
a catch of light brightened as the closed lips
parted and spoke their only word, which was light.

The speaking tree offered ripe yellow
fruit, growing full in the palm of a hand.
Calling it lightened the night heavy sky
spread stars like leaves over the listening land.


 :)


Begin doing what you want to do now.

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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #26 on: Feb 12, 2006, 10:13:30 AM »
ps - I know it looks like I've hi-jackied this - but doesn't any one alse have nay plans they want to share with us?

and especially like to know what readings and vows other people are going for.
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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #27 on: Feb 12, 2006, 04:43:31 PM »
i don't think you can hijack your own thread can you!!

anyway, i'm enjoying reading your stuff so keep on posting

gives me ideas for maybe who knows when (we're doing the house thing first  :o )

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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #28 on: Feb 13, 2006, 09:47:17 AM »
We're doing the 'giving notice' bit tomorrow. We've booked a venue, and like you we're having various friends do bits. My sister is doing the flowers, my niece and my partner's sort-of-niece (aged 10 and 14) are both reading poems. We're not having music though - we have two friends who plays guitar and sings, one really well, and one really badly. If we have the good one do anything, the bad one will want to  (and she doesn't know she's bad)  ::)

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Re:Wedding Day
« Reply #29 on: Feb 13, 2006, 09:57:27 AM »

LOL
Ruth you made me laugh about the friends'relative  musical abilities - luckily both the ppl who have offered music to us are good -

aren't you going to have some music at the top and tail of it?

I hope you  enjoy your giving notice bit - it took longer than we expected and was quite moving in its own way, well I thought so!

Begin doing what you want to do now.

We are not living in eternity.

We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand and melting like a snowflake.