post on these threads. Marriage threads seem like millicent flypaper.
If you've already read what I'm going to write, I apologise.
We had our "wedding" (minus the piece of paper
) two and a half years ago and it was great.
We had "Have I told you lately that I love you" (because I used to sing it to my g/f and she didn't know the song, so she thought I made it up until Rod Stewart came on on the radio one day) and "You and me" ("then we watch TV, till we fall asleep, not very exciting, but it's you and me, always and forever". Well, it seemed fitting.
We also got some friends to do some readings we both chose together:
"The difficulty that is marriage - Paul Durcan
We disagree to disagree, we divide, we differ;
Yet each night as I lie in bed beside you
And you are faraway curled up in sleep
I array the moonlit ceiling with a mosaic of question-marks;
How was it I was so lucky to have ever met you?
I am no brave pagan proud of my mortality
Yet gladly on this changeling earth I should live for ever
If it were with you, my sleeping friend.
I have my troubles, and I shall always have them
But I would rather live with you for ever
Than exhange my troubles for a changeless kingdom.
But I do not put you on a pedestal or throne;
You must have your faults but I do not see them.
If it were with you, I should live for ever."
“If I can make you cry – Paul Williams
If I can fill your eyes with pleasure
Just by holding you
In the early hours of the morning
When the day that lies ahead’s
Not quite begun.
If I can make you smile
If I can move you close
To laughter with a word or two
When you day’s been filled with strangers
And the castles that you build
All tumble down
Oh well, that’s enough for me
That’s all the hero I need to be
I smile to think of you and me
You and I
And how our pleasures make you cry”
We also exchanged rings at the ceremony.
We invited close family and friends for the ceremony and a meal, and then hired the upstairs bit of a local pub and we had a DJ.
We were a bit nervous about inviting one particular aunt. ("Two women isn't a wedding. It’s just not normal." but even she got into the spirit.)
And this is the cake we had. (Yes, it’s the same style as Jordan’s but we so got there first.)http://i19.photobucket.com/albums/b189/millicent_uk/06130023.jpg
We're getting civilly partnered on the 28th of December and we don't want to take anything away from our "wedding", so we're just going to have my best friend and her husband as witnesses, and then go for pizza with some friends. (Ok, with about 30 friends
) No cake this time. But we couldn’t resist more rings.