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Re: FAQ about making babies...
« Reply #135 on: Apr 22, 2011, 11:32:34 AM »
I'm a bit confused, and possibly just being a bit thick here... sorry!

MiniCorrect's post said:

# Try to inseminate no more than 24 hours after the first positive OPK result
# 5% chance of pregnancy if IUI is done within 24 hours of positive OPK result, 90% if within 24-48 hours and 5% past 48 hours

The first point is saying to try and do it within 24 hours, right?
But the second point says there's more likely to be a positive result between 24 and 48 hours.

So what's better?

I'm years off actually doing any of this but I seem to have spent the entire morning so far reading all the FAQs and looking up many websites!
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Re:FAQ about making babies...
« Reply #136 on: Apr 24, 2011, 10:02:35 PM »
Wow, it's great to read your message.

I had my daughter through a UK sperm donor (clinic). I have posted lots of info about my experience on the fertility forums at gaybyboom.co.uk including information about what questions to ask. I hope it helps someone out there.

I've noticed that people ask about importing sperm from the US from time to time. I've done that (and have my beautiful baby boy to show for it!) I've been sending people out an e-mail with the details of how I did it when people ask, but I'm going to stick it here cos then it's there for anyone who is interested!  :)

Please bear in mind that this is only my experience and relates specifically to the two clinics I used, but other people have said they found it helpful.

* I registered with my clinic in Manchester, which all in all took about 6 months with the various tests, counselling and doctor's approval etc. I paid about £300 for tests (not optional)
* I contacted the American clinic. This clinic was recommended to me by someone who had used it already. You can only use HFEA approved clinics and apparently there aren't many of them, but this clinic works closely with the HFEA.
* Set up an account with NE Cryogenics. This involves sending off for a bunch of forms which you then fill in and send back. You have to give out your bank details and your clinic in Britain needs to fill in some sections too.
* Then you need a license from the HFEA to import sperm. The British clinic will contact them on your behalf and it took about a month for the decision to come through. You shouldn't have any problems if you are just importing a small amount to try and conceive. I've heard that the law around this may change soon and clinics will be able to apply for the license so you don't have to do it personally. (I don't have up to date information on this) What I didn't realise at the time was that the license only lasts a month so I would advise you not to get the license until you have checked out donor availability.
* I chose a donor only to discover he wasn't currently available as he needed to go in for a test. I waited for a while but after a month he still wasn't available. I chose another donor - he wasn't currently available either! I waited a while and by that time my license had run out! I had to apply for another license (it was much quicker this time as it was a re-application) and eventually went with my 3rd choice donor. My advice is, check this stuff first. It says on the website that all donors listed should be available within 60 days but they can't actually guarentee this in practice. NE Cryogenics will store purchased sperm free of charge for 3 months, so you could buy it and then apply for a license.
* The American clinic ships your vials to the British clinic. This is where things get expensive. My vials cost $385 each and I bought 5. (Non identity release sperm is $285 per vial) I'm afraid I can't remember how much the shipping costs were but you have to pay a deposit of about $800 and they can take up to a year to refund this. (update note: this clinic is no longer charging deposits)  5 vials is the maximum number you can ship in one go, and with the deposit and shipping costs being high and knowing that it takes 4 inseminations on average to get pregnant it seemed sensible to ship the maximum 5 as long as you can afford it.
* My clinic had never done this before and although they were great about it I had to check up on things every stage of the way. For example you are responsible for making sure the shipping container is sent back to the American clinic and it took quite a while for me to get my clinic to organise this.
* From then on you can continue as if you were just using the British clinic. Bear in mind though that I still had to pay the full price which they would charge even if they had provided the sperm for me. This was £450 per insemination. I also hadn't considered the fact they would charge me to store the sperm at their clinic and I was given an annual charge of £165 for this. I have also just discovered that you will be charged twice if you want to store another lot later on even if you are already storing some. (I'm currently in the process of sorting out more vials of the same donor for a sibling)

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Re: FAQ about making babies...
« Reply #137 on: Jun 28, 2011, 12:43:13 PM »
I just want to say that www.co-parentmatch.com is a fab place to meet co-parents or donors.  We are planning to start the process in December, and have meet loads of really friendly guys and couples there, and even have a few possible donors that we are currently in discussions with ;D

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Re: FAQ about making babies...
« Reply #138 on: Aug 04, 2011, 12:44:31 PM »
I was just wondering what kind of tests you all recommend for donors to get done?  Aside from all the regular STD tests, Im wondering about diseases that they may be a carrier for??

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Re: FAQ about making babies...
« Reply #139 on: Aug 08, 2011, 06:32:43 PM »
look at family history of illness, aids/hiv, std, ermmmmmmmm . . .  i think that kinda covers  it

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Re: FAQ about making babies...
« Reply #140 on: Oct 06, 2011, 09:45:49 PM »
I just want to say that www.co-parentmatch.com is a fab place to meet co-parents or donors. 

We were going to sign on to co-parents.net until two couples we know discovered they were in talks with the same potential donor.  Kind of put us off.

I'm really interested in clinics in Danish clinics, yet don't know anyone who has successfully used one.  Who should we be looking at, as there seems to be so many!  Practically everyone I know is looking at a known donor first, but I'm just not sure about that :-\

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Re: FAQ about making babies...
« Reply #141 on: Nov 03, 2011, 11:16:05 PM »
I'm really interested in clinics in Danish clinics, yet don't know anyone who has successfully used one.  Who should we be looking at, as there seems to be so many!

When we went to Guys' and Sy Thomas', they told us to look at European Sperm Bank (www.europeanspermbank.com) which is Danish, or Xytex (www.xytex.com) which is American.

I must admit, that when I contacted them both, I found Xytex to be much more approachable in their responses to my questions, compared to ESB. Xytex was also a bit cheaper and don't charge a "pregnancy fee" on top of everything else. Also, their choice is a lot more vast...

Just my opinion of what I have researched so far. :)
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Re: FAQ about making babies...
« Reply #142 on: Nov 05, 2011, 12:33:58 AM »
We used ESB and were really happy with them, and always found them very responsive to our questions. Also, our clinic recommended them and said that they had always found the sperm were excellent quality. Plus you get an enormous amount of information about the donor - you have (or we had) to pay a fee to access unlimited information for 3 months, I think, but since then our clinic has a login so as a patient of theirs we could access it for free.

Also heard good things about Xytex, but no personal experience.

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Re: FAQ about making babies...
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Re: FAQ about making babies...
« Reply #144 on: Nov 05, 2012, 05:50:55 PM »
Hi

I'm very new to all this and trying to get my head around the process. I've found this thread really useful, so thanks!

One question I have though, is if you find a donor via somewhere like prideangel.com, can you then use that sperm for IUI treatment on the NHS? Or if you go via the NHS route rather than a private clinic, do you have to use the anonymous sperm donor provided by the NHS?

 

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Re: FAQ about making babies...
« Reply #145 on: Nov 05, 2012, 06:11:34 PM »
if you find your donor via prideangel then he becomes a known donor. He will have to come with you to the clinic, sign some forms and participate in 2 sessions of obligatory counselling (one alone, one with you) and make a donation on which they will do some basic tests (to check that it is viable). If this is ok then he will make the sperm donations that get frozen and he will do a blood test (HIV, hep etc). 6 months after this blood test he will have to re-take the test and if all is ok then the blood will be taken out of quarantine and be released to be used for your treatment.