Two things I've been really proud to see come good recently are:
- Confidence in his own physical abilities, which has often been lacking; and
- Asking for his blue inhaler when he needs it. This has been such a fucking headache because he KNOWS but has never really asked for it, and he often wheezes in an atypical or discreet sort of fashion so it's very easy for it to go unnoticed if I'm not around. And then a month or so ago, he did! At school! Where he's never even used it at the suggestion of staff before! Where he's only been for one term! Hurrah.
Consent - we're getting there, but it doesnt feel entirely finished. I actually think that breastfeeding for an absurd (
) length of time helped with this one - SO much practical stuff about bodies and boundaries in negotiating that stuff.
Good manners. Bits of this which we've got sussed so far include: please and thank you; not saying 'yuck' to food we don't want (and always at least trying it); being outwardly grateful for presents even if you don't like them; not saying things which will hurt someone's feelings; answering politely when someone is talking to you, even if you're feeling shy. Still a lot of work to be done on not interrupting.
Cooking - J is 4 and this learning is in parts at the moment: how to use a very sharp knife, how to put things in hot pans and stir them without burning yourself on the pan or the gas, how to switch the cooker on and off, how to weigh things etc.
Washing up. Putting a load of washing on.
Budgeting - how to choose what to buy, hard choices about whether we buy X or Y because we can't/won't afford both (that sounds like poverty drama, whereas in fact what I mean is eg. he's currently foregoing a month of magazines because we bought Super Mario for my iPad instead).
I think he's effortlessly (on my part, at least) absorbed a lot of understanding about using public transport in London and elsewhere, which is undoubtedly useful.
Saying sorry. Losing graciously. Coping with disappointments. The latter two with variable success at present.