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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #15 on: Dec 09, 2016, 06:29:49 PM »
GF from the last bit in particular in your post she sounds like someone difficult to deal with anyhow
If the very last interaction you ever have with her is sending flowers that might not be a bad thing-eh?

Look after yourself instead!  ;D

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #16 on: Dec 09, 2016, 07:53:26 PM »
Also, girlfriday, learning to let these things go is better for your own mental health.
Again referring to my mum - she has unrealistically high expectations of other people's behaviour and so is constantly disappointed and upset. I tell her that the people in question won't change but she can cause herself less stress by lowering her expectations. That doesn't mean making yourself a doormat, but accepting that sometimes you won't get the reaction or response you want or think you deserve. Let it go, for your own sake.
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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #17 on: Dec 10, 2016, 03:51:39 AM »
thanks again.  You guys are great.  I've come to realize it's a matter of how high my expectations are of others.  I think I'll tone it down a bit.  :-[

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #18 on: Dec 10, 2016, 07:17:11 AM »
Don't feel embarrassed, this could be the start of a fabulous fase in your life :D

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #19 on: Feb 23, 2017, 04:13:03 AM »
Alrighty.  So I found out why she didn't thank me for the flowers.

She told one of my best friends, "When someone dies, flowers don't mean anything"

I'm not sure why I feel bad about this.  She told my best friend who's idea it was to get her the flowers in the first place. 

How would you take this??

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #20 on: Feb 23, 2017, 04:49:43 AM »
She's just not that into you. Or flowers.

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #21 on: Feb 23, 2017, 09:50:44 PM »
Good to see your name,  gfriday! I have been more involved with FBK, but like you, missed GB.
Also, girlfriday, learning to let these things go is better for your own mental health.


excellent advice.
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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #22 on: Feb 23, 2017, 11:44:22 PM »
Good to see your name,  gfriday! I have been more involved with FBK, but like you, missed GB.
Also, girlfriday, learning to let these things go is better for your own mental health.


excellent advice.

Thank you, my love!!  It's great to see you as well!  :)

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #23 on: Mar 07, 2017, 01:22:49 PM »
Alrighty.  So I found out why she didn't thank me for the flowers.

She told one of my best friends, "When someone dies, flowers don't mean anything"

I'm not sure why I feel bad about this.  She told my best friend who's idea it was to get her the flowers in the first place. 

How would you take this??

To reiterate, girlfriday - let it go. It was 3 months ago; time to move on?
"U r a multifaceted dark horse. Oh yes you are..."

a wise and helpful soul, Musette  ;D

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #24 on: Jun 29, 2017, 04:13:42 AM »
I feel like I would definitely fail if I were given an impromtu exam testing my comprehension of that story.

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #25 on: Jun 29, 2017, 07:52:42 AM »
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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #26 on: Jun 29, 2017, 10:38:57 AM »
I think you're focusing on a lot of irrelevant detail there, GF.

The only important bit is that if she wanted to be with you, she would have found a way for that to happen but she didn't want that.

Whatever else she chose is her business, whether you approve of her choices or not. And you're wasting your life and energy obsessing over something that was not meant to be.

Accept that her life is hers to lead and her choices are hers to make. And she's responsible for finding her own happiness and you need to focus on finding yours. And if you want that to be with someone else rather than on your own then is has to be with someone who WANTS to be with you.

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #27 on: Jun 29, 2017, 01:50:37 PM »
GF, sorry but you're sounding a bit obsessive. This whole thread, the flowers, the death, the drama etc. Weirdly obsessive. I think you need to take a step back and think about this.

As for the 'arrogant' bit of your post. For all you know there's someone out there saying exactly the same about you. Why are you bothering with someone who leaves you, lies to you and treats you like shit?

Anyway, I'm sorry but the only person I feel any sympathy for in this entire clusterfvck is a little kid who has lost their mum. The rest of you sound too self indulgent and drama obsessed to really care about too much.

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #28 on: Jun 29, 2017, 06:16:15 PM »
First, great to see so many names I recognize, although this is a time-long thread.

In response to the initial comment.

When I give, it's one way. I have no expectations.
Yes. Sure. Etiquette deems it proper to respond.
But, if you do not have any you are less likely to
be disappointed.
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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #29 on: Jun 29, 2017, 07:53:29 PM »
Alrighty.  So I found out why she didn't thank me for the flowers.

She told one of my best friends, "When someone dies, flowers don't mean anything"

I'm not sure why I feel bad about this.  She told my best friend who's idea it was to get her the flowers in the first place. 

How would you take this??

To reiterate, girlfriday - let it go. It was 3 months ago; time to move on?

I suggested 4 months ago that it was time to move on, girlfriday, and now I no longer have any idea what you're talking about.
"U r a multifaceted dark horse. Oh yes you are..."

a wise and helpful soul, Musette  ;D