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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #15 on: Dec 09, 2016, 06:29:49 PM »
GF from the last bit in particular in your post she sounds like someone difficult to deal with anyhow
If the very last interaction you ever have with her is sending flowers that might not be a bad thing-eh?

Look after yourself instead!  ;D

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #16 on: Dec 09, 2016, 07:53:26 PM »
Also, girlfriday, learning to let these things go is better for your own mental health.
Again referring to my mum - she has unrealistically high expectations of other people's behaviour and so is constantly disappointed and upset. I tell her that the people in question won't change but she can cause herself less stress by lowering her expectations. That doesn't mean making yourself a doormat, but accepting that sometimes you won't get the reaction or response you want or think you deserve. Let it go, for your own sake.
"U r a multifaceted dark horse. Oh yes you are..."

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #17 on: Dec 10, 2016, 03:51:39 AM »
thanks again.  You guys are great.  I've come to realize it's a matter of how high my expectations are of others.  I think I'll tone it down a bit.  :-[

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #18 on: Dec 10, 2016, 07:17:11 AM »
Don't feel embarrassed, this could be the start of a fabulous fase in your life :D

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #19 on: Feb 23, 2017, 04:13:03 AM »
Alrighty.  So I found out why she didn't thank me for the flowers.

She told one of my best friends, "When someone dies, flowers don't mean anything"

I'm not sure why I feel bad about this.  She told my best friend who's idea it was to get her the flowers in the first place. 

How would you take this??

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #20 on: Feb 23, 2017, 04:49:43 AM »
She's just not that into you. Or flowers.

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #21 on: Feb 23, 2017, 09:50:44 PM »
Good to see your name,  gfriday! I have been more involved with FBK, but like you, missed GB.
Also, girlfriday, learning to let these things go is better for your own mental health.


excellent advice.
accept what is,let go of what was and have  faith in what will be

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #22 on: Feb 23, 2017, 11:44:22 PM »
Good to see your name,  gfriday! I have been more involved with FBK, but like you, missed GB.
Also, girlfriday, learning to let these things go is better for your own mental health.


excellent advice.

Thank you, my love!!  It's great to see you as well!  :)

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Re: Hi Mates 😊
« Reply #23 on: Mar 07, 2017, 01:22:49 PM »
Alrighty.  So I found out why she didn't thank me for the flowers.

She told one of my best friends, "When someone dies, flowers don't mean anything"

I'm not sure why I feel bad about this.  She told my best friend who's idea it was to get her the flowers in the first place. 

How would you take this??

To reiterate, girlfriday - let it go. It was 3 months ago; time to move on?
"U r a multifaceted dark horse. Oh yes you are..."

a wise and helpful soul, Musette  ;D