This feels like coming out so late at life. I'm 32 and have identified myself as bi for a few years. When I was a teen I identified as straight, I could find women attractive but never gave myself the freedom to tell me I might actually date one, which is kinda weird in a way because my family is very liberal and I have gay relatives... though no one at my school was openly gay, I never had openly gay friends for most years in high school. This changed throughout college. And I know that now I have a lot of supportive friends, including tons of gays, lesbians and bi friends.
I've dated men, but it always felt like something was missing, I never felt love or a deep attraction like they seemed to have about me, but I always thought that was just not the right man. But when I started dating women, it felt different, even when it was nothing serious, it felt much better. I haven't dated a man in three years and noticed that for the last 1-2 years I have had no attraction to men at all. I can look at a man and find him good looking, but no attraction whatsoever, no sexual desire, etc. I don't see myself open to dating men in the future either.
I have talked to two friends (girls) one is bi and the other is lesbian. The bi girl just said 'maybe you're just a lesbian", but the lesbian girl had an interesting insight and I'd like to know other people's opinions, especially from lesbian girls if possible. She said I've dated men, you simply cannot put men in being lesbian, it'd be wrong calling myself a lesbian. So I don't know. I know a lot of people don't care about labels, but I think they can be important, to me it can bring a sense of belonging, and I don't feel that as a bisexual. What do you guys think? I understand what my friend is saying about previous men and calling myself a lesbian, but you know, why "hold on" to calling myself bi if I'm no longer interested in men... Am I giving too much unnecessary thought to what other people would think? Maybe I'm just feeling insecure, but also wouldn't wanna offend any lesbian by calling myself that as well.
Sorry for anything, this is my first post. I've been searching for this kind of forum today because I've been really questioning myself this past week.