Are you a mother, Earl?
Yes, which is probably why I posed the question the way I did re expecting too much. I'm a daughter, too.
Was that helpful?
My mother is on the surface, fine. Her guilt-tripping me into disastrous decisions when I was younger, which with some hindsight, was clearly for her own benefit, not mine, became less upsetting over time. Her thoughtlessness and favouritism rankles.
After some time not seeing much/any of my family, I've begun to meet up with her for the occasional coffee. I keep having to remember we are essentially, very different people.
I think the John Waters quote resonated with me because I can, sometimes find the above quite hard, even though I know she would help if I asked/was in trouble...ergo, maybe I'm an asshole....but, unlike Waters, I'm still reasonably sexy