I have a bit of a dilemma and wondered if anyone could give me some advice?
When we lived in Stockport, my eleven year old daughter was quite used to the idea of me getting in a relationship with a lady, as most people in our area knew my history and accepted me.
My son, on the other hand, a year younger, was struggling with the idea that if I was to start a relationship again, with anyone, it was definite going to be with a woman, he was close to my ex, his dad, and found the split difficult; my daughter, relished the concept, at that time.
However, now we have moved to this lovely area, where there are lots of lovely people, openly gay, she has become, 'uncomfortable', and evasive, even hostile and angry, when I even touch on the subject of being with a woman!
I realise she is still trying to prove herself, and fit in, at school, the area, etc, and so, I am trying to accommodate her and be sensitive and patient.
The problem is, my lady may soon be here, and hopefully, moving in with us, we shall be living openly together, and my daughter knows this, my son, on the other hand, has been great about it, his new, best friend has a 'step mum' and is getting married soon to his mum!
I am thrilled he has finally met a friend in this position, it has helped enormously!
It seems to have been a reversal of roles!
The difficulty is, my daughter, who has slight autism, dyslexia, A.D.H.D, needs more understanding than most, and I now feel unable to speak comfortably, or openly in her company without getting into a row, or upsetting her.
I know I should be standing up for my right to be with whom ever I wish, but feel I have gone back ten steps, since moving which has completely achieved the opposite of what the intention of moving was in the first place!
Should I just give her more time to adjust and see if she adapts again, and comes around, or should I just ignore her until she accepts that we will be together ?
She was great in our last place, her friends knew about me, and she had reached a point where she was actually looking forward to us being together.
Now we are here, she just seems to be so vehemently opposed to any suggestion of my relationship being out in the open, or any mention of my sexuality at all!
It's really upsetting and worrying me.
Like I said, I just seemed to have gone back ten steps with her!
Any suggestions/ advice?