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Offline girlfriday

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have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« on: Feb 29, 2016, 08:38:49 PM »
Long story short , my ex broke up with me back during the holidays in December, and I have not looked back.  She did it by text message and I just plain old did not respond to it and cut off all contact.

Next thing you know, 2 months later yesterday we see each other at a bar and she basically complains that I did not fight for her enough.  She was hurt and angry.

Problem is that she was the one who threw me away by breaking up in the first place. 

Although I don't think I'm wrong, I apologise to her and being that I was a bit buzzed, asked her to give us another chance.   But she said no.  Reason was that  she can't trust me , that she was so hurt she drank too much during that time because I thew her away like garbage.   I did not protest to her decision 

Anyway, she asks that we talk outside and we did but she winded up inviting me to a nightclub where her friends are. She let me hold her hand but refused my kisses.  I held her hand all night.

When I was about to go home she told me that it's over but that she wants me to text her.  I asked what for?  She said that she wants to see something meaningful.  I asked her like me taking you out on a date?  She said yes, if I have the day off.

I'm very confused by her actions.  Is it her ego that is wanting me to contact her because I cut off all contact or does she honestly still have somewhat feelings for me?  I asked her multiple times if she has feelings for me and she gave me both answers:  yes and no (during different times)

What gives?

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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #1 on: Feb 29, 2016, 09:58:56 PM »
At best, she is immature and fickle. At worst, she is a player who won't take responsibility for her actions. How much heartache do you want? No contact does work if you stick to it. Again, you could check out Natalie Lue's blog, Baggage Reclaim, which has useful advice on no contact. Good luck!

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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #2 on: Feb 29, 2016, 11:45:20 PM »
I want the psychologist back. You need to bump into the psychologist to distract yourself.

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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #3 on: Mar 01, 2016, 10:25:50 AM »
From what you've written, it sounds as if she dumped you as some sort of test to see if you'd fight for her. I'd say that was manipulative and cruel.
 
I wouldn't want to fight for someone who did that sort of thing.

She told you it's over but wants you to text her something meaningful? Gives me the creeps, to be honest,  and I'd be blocking her number.  But you know her better than me and it sounds like you might be a bit smitten.

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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #4 on: Mar 01, 2016, 04:08:44 PM »
Give her a wide berth you are worth more than that.  I'd move on and find someone else who actually wants to be with me!

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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #5 on: Mar 08, 2016, 07:57:00 PM »
Yep, i have..
i simply..!moved into Heathrow Airport for abt five months (on/off.)
It was JOY when she moved out eventually.
Time on..randomly i have bumped into her and : never felt a(n) (emotional) thing!
Life goes on! Hurrah xxxxxxxxxxxxx
*take heart, folks..it CAN be done.

One G/friend on!! x

* i don't find the concept of Easy..nasty.
Do any of you have an opinion on RENT GRRLS?? WOULD YOU USE ONE??
i know they prostitutes by any other name, but..if one was !lingering in a bar, warm and friendly.. !! ?
Would you be averse to it?? *perhaps i am 'talking to the older dyke here..' of which i am one, now.
*for what it is worth..i suppose i have !met quite a few of these types, over the years in the bars..and if there are rent Boyz, why not Grrls! Hmm..
Over to your replies!
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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #6 on: Mar 12, 2016, 03:44:58 PM »
I'm not sure moving into an airport is an option for most. 
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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #7 on: Mar 12, 2016, 04:37:20 PM »
Lol. Don't know why that made me laugh so much.

Original poster - wtf? She dumped you...  she has no right to say you should have fought for her or whatever. If she felt like that she shouldn't have dumped you.

It sounds like a total headfuck so I'd probably stay away but I guess only you can make that decision.

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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #8 on: Mar 12, 2016, 09:15:00 PM »
I'm not sure moving into an airport is an option for most.

Why not?

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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #9 on: Mar 13, 2016, 09:25:19 AM »
I'm not sure moving into an airport is an option for most.
Ha! Agree. :D
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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #10 on: Mar 18, 2016, 04:35:08 PM »
Yes. Just one.The last one who many of you met.
But, I have no regrets that I had the relationship.
It was a learning experience & when normal, good times & great sex.
accept what is,let go of what was and have  faith in what will be

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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #11 on: Mar 19, 2016, 10:42:22 PM »
No, they're exes for a reason I think.
One day I'll laugh about this!😑

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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #12 on: Apr 05, 2016, 07:38:12 PM »
She's playing games, she screwed up. Run...run far far away in the opposite direction. Find someone who doesn't play games and will put in as much effort into the relationship as you will.

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Re: have any of you done a no contact w an ex?
« Reply #13 on: Jun 02, 2016, 09:34:46 PM »
No, they're exes for a reason I think.
some of them may be exes because you grew away from each other emotionally. I was with Nancy for 15 years & we are now best friends. We simply grew apart.
accept what is,let go of what was and have  faith in what will be