I find the whole identity thing very confusing, I've spent my whole life (as we all do) trying to figure out exactly who I am and what I am, I thought I'd finally done that by admitting to myself and others that I'm a lesbian and not bisexual as I convinced myself I was for years in an effort to somehow 'fit in' more with my straight friends. Now though it seems that lesbian identity is so much more complex than I realised. Does everyone fit on the 'butch/femme' spectrum or are there other identities I haven't even come across? One thing I do know is that while I have very masculine traits and am much more comfortable with those traits than I am my feminine traits, I also enjoy the parts of me that make me a woman. Is being butch/soft butch/tomboy or any other such identity to do with the way I behave, my thought process, the way I present or the way others see me?
Sorry, too many questions from a relative newbie right? I'm comfortable with who I am and what I am, I just wonder if I need a label other than lesbian in order to identify. Thank you for taking the time to read and answer and thank you for the advice of 'just be' - it seems like very good advice, it's very much appreciated.