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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #30 on: Jan 07, 2016, 12:02:14 AM »
Not sure if that is a question to me, mittens, but just to update...

After a lot of thought and talk, we decided that, short term, she will live closer to her work up here (which is an hour and a half away by train). And we will work through the types of issues touched on this thread, and see where we are at with it all in a few months' time.

I can't quite decide if this is a triumph of head over heart that I/we will come to rue.

But this thread was extremely helpful, and will continue to be.




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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #31 on: Jan 07, 2016, 09:42:59 PM »
In that case, mzB, I wonder if you should both adapt your own pad to be more accommodating to each other, and see how that works. Kind of test-driving living together in both places, while both also having a bolt hole? Might not be a lot different in practice from having a live-in partner who's away a lot.

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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #32 on: Jan 09, 2016, 09:03:27 PM »
you're a woman of wisdom
and i am confident you'll make the right choices for you both  :-*

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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #33 on: Jan 09, 2016, 09:49:38 PM »
L4L, yes, we will definitely continue to test drive each other...  8)

mittens, you know I am a silly old bat. But thank you x

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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #34 on: Mar 18, 2016, 04:26:42 PM »
When 2 people live together it is never Utopian. I think it's a learning process that requires dedication  & love.
accept what is,let go of what was and have  faith in what will be

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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #35 on: May 15, 2016, 10:37:13 PM »
My experience of living together was really special. We laughed so much, and got to know in other in a really beautiful way. I recommend. It wasn't perfection, and some things had to be negotiated and worked out, but that's a relationship.

I don't think it's necessarily better or worse than having each a place, but different.


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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #36 on: May 16, 2016, 07:24:13 PM »
When 2 people live together it is never Utopian. I think it's a learning process that requires dedication  & love.

Gets damn close though!

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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #37 on: Jun 07, 2016, 02:15:18 PM »
Prefer living on my own. Less hassles that way...

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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #38 on: Jul 14, 2016, 05:16:58 PM »
Great advice from many!
 I am quite easy to live with as long as nobody tries to tell me how to raise my kids, and that way I won't tell them either!
Good luck you lucky pair, and just try to enjoy every moment with each other that you can, is my advice! :)
One day I'll laugh about this!😑

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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #39 on: Jul 14, 2016, 06:54:54 PM »
Thank you scouser. We are - finally - making the decision about whether to live together this weekend. Here's hoping! x

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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #40 on: Jul 14, 2016, 08:44:59 PM »
Our 10th wedding anniversary is this weekend. We moved in together before that though. Only yesterday my wife was saying that living alone for most of the twenty years before that didn't mean that you couldn't enjoy living with someone. I took this as a very positive comment but writing it down now, it seems living with me has adversely affected her maths skills or memory (it was more like 15 years). Should I feel bad about that?

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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #41 on: Jul 14, 2016, 08:53:26 PM »
No! Ha, it just means the time has passed so quickly, it seems like less, you should be happy about that, at least she doesn't feel it's dragged! :)
One day I'll laugh about this!😑

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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #42 on: Jul 14, 2016, 09:45:55 PM »
Thank you scouser. We are - finally - making the decision about whether to live together this weekend. Here's hoping! x

But which are you hoping for, MzB? :)
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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #43 on: Jul 14, 2016, 11:19:56 PM »
Someone to deal with the heavy duty DIY, Musette. Preferably wearing a tool belt.  8)

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Re: Living together - wit, wisdom or warnings?
« Reply #44 on: Jul 14, 2016, 11:42:21 PM »
Someone to deal with the heavy duty DIY, Musette. Preferably wearing a tool belt.  8)

Oh, that I can understand, MzB ;)
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