Author Topic: Do you think your relationship might be toxic?  (Read 1230 times)

Slantrhyme

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Do you think your relationship might be toxic?
« on: Jul 21, 2015, 04:11:09 PM »
 Somebody posted this up on Facebook and I thought it was interesting, so I thought I'd share it with you.

http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/07/toxic-partner-questions-to-ask/
When thinking about my previous relationship, I got four negative answers out of five, which is a bit scary really. 
Thinking about my current relationship, I can see areas that we could work on. Not massive things, just little things like  how we could communicate better, listen to and speak to each other with more understanding. 

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Re: Do you think your relationship might be toxic?
« Reply #1 on: Oct 22, 2015, 10:02:59 PM »
Thank you for sharing this. I'm on roughly 3 out of 5, but I'm not sure it reflects my partner that much - I'm sure if I called her out on something, she'd back down or adjust it a little.

I'm already mega-confused about my relationship, so this adds to it I guess. Interesting read, though.

Slantrhyme

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Re: Do you think your relationship might be toxic?
« Reply #2 on: Oct 26, 2015, 11:50:09 AM »
Sorry  :-\
 I tried to look at it as things that maybe we could work on, rather than trying to catalogue everything that's wrong.  I'm very good at putting a negative spin on things. I tear myself up with self-loathing most of the time,  but that would seem rather unfair to my girlfriend, Who is one half of our relationship,  and it's probably unfair  to myself as well if the truth be told.     

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Re: Do you think your relationship might be toxic?
« Reply #3 on: Dec 19, 2015, 11:04:09 PM »
Somebody posted this up on Facebook and I thought it was interesting, so I thought I'd share it with you.

http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/07/toxic-partner-questions-to-ask/
When thinking about my previous relationship, I got four negative answers out of five, which is a bit scary really. 
Thinking about my current relationship, I can see areas that we could work on. Not massive things, just little things like  how we could communicate better, listen to and speak to each other with more understanding. 

This is really useful. Thank you :)
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Re: Do you think your relationship might be toxic?
« Reply #4 on: Jan 30, 2016, 01:59:46 PM »
been there; done that…it's been a handicap. In a relationship now & seems to be quite non-toxic. 
accept what is,let go of what was and have  faith in what will be

Daffodil

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Re: Do you think your relationship might be toxic?
« Reply #5 on: Jan 30, 2016, 02:39:28 PM »
Any kind of relationship can be toxic.  Doesn't have to be a partner.

dukovearl

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Re: Do you think your relationship might be toxic?
« Reply #6 on: Jan 30, 2016, 06:09:44 PM »
My relationship with my mother is currently toxic.

Slantrhyme

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Re: Do you think your relationship might be toxic?
« Reply #7 on: Feb 03, 2016, 05:24:12 PM »
^  oh dear, your marathon effort cleaning the house didn't go down too well then?

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Re: Do you think your relationship might be toxic?
« Reply #8 on: Feb 03, 2016, 06:03:48 PM »
Nope, 'fraid not. She kicked me out of her house last week, with much shouting and swearing (not from me, I was quiet as a mouse) for gently mentioning the new growing pile of old newspapers.

Slantrhyme

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Re: Do you think your relationship might be toxic?
« Reply #9 on: Feb 03, 2016, 06:10:01 PM »
 Oh god, how galling.
Still, sometimes you just have to accept the fact that some things you just can't change, and you either have to let it slide or walk away.