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Re: Work Colleague Crush - Update
« Reply #15 on: Jun 18, 2015, 11:44:34 PM »
Update . . .

I have been purposefully working away at another office for 7 weeks plus to try and distance myself from the situation. Unfortunately, this hasn't worked and still I still think about her daily . . .

Maybe I'm better off going back, as at least I stand half a chance of something (even little) progressing?

I personally feel that she would never be interested in me anyway, and I shy away from the whole situation which makes me feel so frustrated and angry with myself.


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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #16 on: Sep 11, 2015, 09:58:44 PM »
Update . . .
She was always taken, and recently married (a woman) :'(
Only found this out a couple of days ago . . .
The crush is still as strong as ever . . . But. She'll never know  ::)

I feel as though I'm going to have to go through a grieving process, as I know I need to let her go. Never, ever had a crush as long as this and felt so strongly . . .

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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #17 on: Sep 12, 2015, 09:47:32 AM »
Sounds tough  :-\

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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #18 on: Sep 14, 2015, 11:27:10 AM »
I had one of those years ago. 

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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #19 on: Sep 14, 2015, 02:24:29 PM »
That does sound hard. Unfortunately, I think you may be right. It is a sort of grieving process, but you will feel better. You might always have feelings for her, but in time, they will reduce.

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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #20 on: Sep 28, 2015, 05:00:01 PM »
I saw you today . . . After a long time.

Again, we gave each other that long look!

You're married, I'm not, and I have moral values.






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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #21 on: Sep 28, 2015, 06:13:08 PM »
I saw you today . . . After a long time.

Again, we gave each other that long look!

You're married, I'm not, and I have moral values.

Mine was married too. 

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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #22 on: Oct 01, 2015, 03:41:31 AM »
You've never even spoken to her! Sounds like it's all in your head.
I would recommend getting out there and meeting new people who might be more suitable for you. Good luck  :)
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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #23 on: Oct 02, 2015, 12:23:56 AM »
You've never even spoken to her! Sounds like it's all in your head.
I would recommend getting out there and meeting new people who might be more suitable for you. Good luck  :)

easier said than done.  I have been there.   Nowadays I don't have massive crushes.  I am older and wiser and realise they never come to anything.   Mind you, I would like to see one of my massive crushes again just to see if I feel the same as I did back then.  Chances are, the answer would be no.

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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #24 on: Oct 22, 2015, 09:59:25 PM »
I saw you today . . .

I was with a colleague, and so were you.

Your colleague acknowledged us, and for the first time we acknowledged each other!

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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #25 on: Feb 22, 2016, 06:43:26 PM »
Still struggling with this crush!
It just won't go away . . .

I thought it would've become easier with time 😞

Any suggestions?



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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #26 on: Feb 23, 2016, 05:13:09 PM »
I don't really have any suggestions I'm afraid. What happened after you first acknowledged each other?

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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #27 on: Feb 23, 2016, 10:13:26 PM »
Thanks for the reply.

I haven't physically seen her since as we work in different buildings. 

We did have a group work meeting set up in December and at the last minute she pulled out and did not attend.


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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #28 on: Feb 25, 2016, 06:41:45 PM »
That's a tough one - crushes on inappropriate women are the worst! I'm not sure how you can work through it though, you just have to accept it for what it is - a fantasy that can never come true. Perhaps once you've met someone else you find attractive your crush will disappear. If you're not seeing one another all the time too then that will help, I wish you luck - I know it must be really hard to deal with at times.
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Re: Work Colleague Crush
« Reply #29 on: Feb 25, 2016, 07:22:18 PM »
^ I agree.
I imagine it's not what you want to hear but it sounds like you have to move on. You said she had recently married a woman so that does seem to be that.
Perhaps you should try to be open to finding the particular feeling that she ignited in you with somebody else. Maybe try to see that as the thing you've learned about yourself in terms of what you want.
She knows where you are. She could have contacted you but hasn't. And you could make yourself ill if you don't let go...
I've had some really bad crushes during the course of my life. But they can sometimes crush you too.
Not to make light of a serious situation, but I'd say "let it go"; like that, now  proverbial, Disney song.