So apparently a side effect of open and honest communication is being ignored afterwards?
No it isn't. Did you remember to negotiate wanting to be reassured or have communication asap? If you did then other side fucked up. You call or message them. It's your right, to fight, to PARTY!
Well, i *thougt* we had a really good if brutally honest chat yesterday - but since I left this morning *tumbleweed*
I have messaged twice today, and they have been read, just no reply.
It's a bit of a shame as said person is driving home tomorrow and I don't think we'll get to say goodbye now.
^^^ hey and this is not on you, you can do your best and then the other person does whatever the fuck they do.
Well, I think it is not ok or very considerate behaviour and I think you should try brutally honest again and say so, "this doesn't feel very considerate of how I may be feeling". On the other hand you cannot make people DO anything, so like PE says, it is not on you. It upsets YOU, but it is not under your control.
So there are two good choices, trying to remember how the other behaves is a reflection on THEM, not you, attempt not to get too paranoid by keeping busy OR ask Kalashnikov Kitty to pay a visit and demand explanations and better manners.