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What brings out the sub in you?
« on: Dec 22, 2014, 11:05:15 PM »
A raised eyebrow? A hand on the small of the back?

What does it for you?

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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #1 on: Dec 23, 2014, 07:58:26 AM »
Ha. good question. I went to a workshop earlier in the year  on something along these lines. We divided into three groups and their was an assumption that the bottoms would act in some role plays. Other members of the group went quiet when this was raised so I spoke up and told the organiser to stop being so silly. I was sure a bunch of tops/switches could role play as a bottom - but probably not so politely.  I was quite miffed at the assumptions made that a bottom/sub would respond in such a way to just anyone who calls them self a top.

There was a lot of 'looks' - whatever they are supposed to look like  ::)  And nervous twitches - disguised as raised eyebrows  ;D 
There was hand on back of necks, on throats, invasion of personal space.  I forget the rest but I recall these were the main ones suggested by all participants.

Me - looks will make me laugh, twitches - oops I mean raised eyebrows worry about their health, and if someone grabs me in some way I will resist.  hmmm but there is a some sub in me, it just does not appear through the usual channels?

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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #2 on: Dec 23, 2014, 07:30:59 PM »
It takes the right person - someone I already have a high level of respect for, attraction, and trust, for a start. But with the right person, holding the hair on the back of my neck works wonders. It's very short hair, so there's a knack to getting a grip on it. She doesn't have to pull, just have a firm grip that she could tug if she wanted to.
Anyone else trying that is asking for a judo move, mind you.
And with my beloved, softly and lovingly calling me 'bitch'. But that only works for her.
She also has a whole little selection of moves that bring out the Dom in me. It's nice that we're both switches  :)

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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #3 on: Dec 23, 2014, 08:18:36 PM »
Obvious things... hand grasping hair, on throat, around wrist.

More subtly... tone of voice, particularly a warning tone. Sinister chuckles. A raised-eyebrows look.

Aaaand now I've got goosebumps just thinking about it ::)
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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #4 on: Dec 23, 2014, 08:59:31 PM »
It takes the right person

This, I think.

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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #5 on: Dec 24, 2014, 10:27:43 PM »
Women in expensive suits!

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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #6 on: Dec 25, 2014, 12:56:39 AM »
Just a certain look... a glint in the eye...
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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #7 on: Dec 26, 2014, 07:24:41 PM »
Her fingers holding my wrist rather than my hand, firm pressure on the pulse point.  :D
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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #8 on: Dec 26, 2014, 08:56:02 PM »
I haven't had the opportunity to explore this IRL, but in fantasy, certain key words, a demanding touch, an approach from behind, an insistent whisper in the ear. Ohhh yes.

Ahem.

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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #9 on: Dec 27, 2014, 06:34:49 PM »
Nismat!  :o :o  :o ;D ;D

For me there isn't something that can 'bring it out', it's either there with a person or it's not - and i've never really worked out what it is that causes it to be there. If we have it though, *anything* they say or do has the potential to turn the submissive elements on, but if we don't nothing will.

With those I play with there are a few key words, phrases or tones of voice (or physical actions) that can mark a switch away from 'normal' interactions, but they differ with individual partners.

[And this really ought to be in the Dungeon!]
« Last Edit: Dec 27, 2014, 06:52:03 PM by jad »

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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #10 on: Dec 27, 2014, 08:28:33 PM »
Oi, Jad, don't make me all embarrassed!!  :-[ surprised to see me? ;)

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« Last Edit: Dec 27, 2014, 11:55:38 PM by Nismats pudding »

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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #11 on: Dec 27, 2014, 10:27:04 PM »
I think it's like the dog whisperer. There's got to be a certain energy you put out that makes you dominant. Some people are very sensitive to that energy and a drawn to it. And then it plays out as it will.  ;)

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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #12 on: Dec 27, 2014, 10:55:18 PM »
I find it sexy having my desire for her used as a carrot to lead me around. I love it when she feels powerful sexually, it's a form of giving. I want her to know how I adore her body.

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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #13 on: Jan 02, 2015, 11:27:12 PM »
I generally am a sub..
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Re: What brings out the sub in you?
« Reply #14 on: Jan 03, 2015, 02:47:44 AM »
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