And it's the rudeness of other people, the almost 'but-how-was-I-supposed-to-know-considering-you-don't-look-like-a-lesbian'. Even lesbians have these close-minded stereotypes about other lesbians. I would always do my own dirty work in bars in order to meet women, but I still got really sick of lesbians and gay men who thought nothing of making assumptions about my sexuality, DESPITE the fact that the majority of lesbians in London actually looked like me! I can only hope that these stereotypes are dying a quick death now that the older lesbians are becoming bored of the scene and a younger generation are moving in.
Well I get same thing whether in mens clothes but the majority of the time in my more femme stuff.
The sad thing is it's the young ones assuming straightness from me, and having to correct them I'm not straight or bi.
So even though older lesbians are leaving the club scene it doesn't necessarily mean that assumptions on sexuality are dying out. I think they'll always be there.
Especially if when in gay clubs you go to hit on a girl only to find out they're straight and just hanging out with their lesbian/gay friends. Which in turn makes you start questioning in your mind should I ask anyone for a date as I keep asking the straight ones out in these gay clubs. It actually happened to me three times in a row which made me feel like whyyyyy aren't you a lesbian haha.
just glad it didn't put me off asking ladies out as I don't assume they're straight or bi, just a attractive woman.
Hopefully in the future women just ask who theyre attracted to out and don't assume their sexuality so they can enjoy a beautiful woman in their arms rather than leaving them alone to think how come no one thinks of them as a lesbian.