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Strop-on:
Hello!

I'm after a little bit of guidance, if anyone can maybe offer some.

I've been growing increasingly interested in BDSM, and interested in exploring my submissive side. However, I've no idea where to start, what I should know in advance or whether this is actually something that makes me horny as hell in my head, but which would actually do nothing for me and/or freak me out if I actually tried it.

I know what works for me in my head, but I don't know if it's better to leave it there. And also - is there a recommended way that I can bring this up with my girlfriend?

Thanks!

fancypants:
Hi there!

I think going to a munch would be a good starting point. They're meets in a vanilla setting, mostly a pub, where you can have a drink and get to know new people. You can see if there's one near you on the Informed Consent calendar. I would also take a look at the discussions on Fetlife.

I can't speak for others but I know I've had that 'Is it just the idea of it that I like' feeling about kink. I think a lot of people have these thoughts.

Strop-on:
Thanks! That's really helpful. I'll check that out.

Thanks again  :)

fancypants:
Glad I could help  :)

Decima:
Well, I told my gf I was into kink by saying something along the lines of 'I'm into kink, are you?' Although I was a coward and did it by text.  8) 

If you're the confident cocky sort, I'd recommend this method. If you're not, how about getting a bit tipsy with your gf and then saying something like 'so I've been thinking about certain stuff lately and wondering what your thoughts are on it...'

I think the key is to explore it together with your partner in a playful fun, no pressure way. Start with with the lighter stuff, even if in your head you're getting turned on by really hardcore filth.

Good luck!

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