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Naila:
An interesting question put to me just recently got me thinking.
 
Do straight girls make better life partners when converted?

Wongy:
A better partner is one who loves you. A partner (male or female) that is willing to; love, cherish, stay loyal to, believe and trust you in all circumstances is worth holding on to. As that means that they want you and are in a position to be a 'life partner'.

If they are of the same sex then you are in a lesbian relationship. However there is no such thing as conversion. It just means that the woman is likely to be bisexual and in the past had been able, either consciously or subconsciously, to only react with and portray the ''straight'' side of herself. This could be for many reasons and as such I will never believe in so-called conversion.

keith:

--- Quote from: Naila on Jul 01, 2012, 01:48:46 AM ---An interesting question put to me just recently got me thinking.
 
Do straight girls make better life partners when converted?

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I'm interested to know what the question was that got you thinking. I'm also interested in your answer to your own question.

I can't help thinking there's quite a lot of homophobia and sexism in that question, also a lot of deep societal fears and myths about lesbians.
An implicit opposite statement is that lesbians don't make as good partners as heterosexual women, (why not, what would be the reasoning behind this?) also the myth of the preditory lesbian converting all the good heterosexual women is there and also the passivity of female sexuality is there, that someone can be 'converted'  by the will of the 'stronger' ie the preditory lesbian in this case.  Quite a heterosexual and fearful reading of lesbians.

I can see from your other posts that you're a writer doing some research. I hope you don't mind me asking, but questions like the one you've asked here take on a different nuance depending on who's doing the asking. So I'm going to ask, are you heterosexual Naila?

Plus One:
Rape is used as a means of "converting" lesbians back to being straight in some parts of the world...or at least as the excuse for rape....
The only time I've ever heard queers use this term is in a tongue-in-cheek manner amongst ourselves becasue at least we know it's not a reality, anymore that heterosexual beliefs that our sexuality is a choice, or the devil in us, or other such nonsense.

The premise that someone's sexuality is something that can be changed by others is fairly offensive to everyone...whatever their sexuality.

Attitudes can be changes, prejudices, expectations, closed minds, closed hearts, social barriers, social norms....blah blah...you might come to realise something about yourself....but conversion, nah, we can convert women any more than a man can convert us to being heterosexual.

Naila:
Am loving the freedom that gingerbeer's messaging board gives us to debate so , no, I don't mind the question. Titles limit us, though I am also aware that in specific arena's they can be  immensely and equally liberating.
 
I am lesbian and the question was put to me by a straight girlfriend of mine who intimated as to whether it is necessary to develop a mindset regarding sexual orientation that enables us to be more gender specific in our interractions with one another.
 
In other words is it a question of programming or understanding of self that allows a more elevated journey sexually as , after many years of singledom (by choice) analyzing the dynamics of female to female interractions and relationships she is now settled and at peace in a long-term relationship with another woman whome she sees as her life partner.
 
So I take on board all points. To convert: ie (to change,or turn from one thing. Condition, opinion,party) is a sub-text issue.Real love permeates and overcomes bigotry, concepts of how we relate to each other (as women) and who we end up loving.
 
The question was a hyperbole. As a writer it is necessray to create verbal paradigms to arrive at a logical conclusion. We all exact a way of being that allows us to function and live, on a myriad of levels. The term 'conversion' is used to encompass a great many other theories regarding our intoxication with each other as women.
 
Who you end up loving or falling in love with depends very much upon your history and development of self.
 

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