Running Away

[dodgy]

Could you? Would you? Have you? Was it for a week, a month, for ever?
This is just something that has occurred to me within the last few days. Life has been bad, financially, personally and workwise. I came to the conclusion that running as far as I could, as fast as I could, getting a new identity and leaving all this stuff behind might be a solution.
Has anyone ever tried to do this, I would be interested in the pitfalls or your experiences of life getting better because of it.

[Muddles]

I have felt like it but have not done it, it dose not solve what is going on in your life as you have not taken the time to deal with it.

write everything down on paper and sort out what has top priority and tackle one at a time.

x

muds

[Amphelise]

I have occasionally thought about it, but never seriously. I could never leave my family and friends - no matter how temporarily annoyed with them I may be - believing I was dead. And I can't see any way to "run away" from one's life without faking one's own death.

In the end, I think that most problems are soluble without such drastic measures. You've just got to weather the bad times. They pass.

[dodgy]

Thanks for your thoughts
Do they pass? How long do you wait?
I know my extended family now have bigger worries than me, I can't find a way out of it at the moment.
I don't want to worry them more but have no-one else to turn to.

Should I take all my personal stuff and just leave? If the debt collectors cant contact me then no probs!

[hellohowareyoutoday]

Some thoughts

The grass isn't always greener on the other side.
You can run away from lots of things, but you can't run away from yourself.
People might miss you and you might miss them.
Maybe if you sorted out some problems in the current environment, running away wouldn't seem as appealing.
Small changes can help things seem less bleak.

[B.O.B.]

You can run away from lots of things, but you can't run away from yourself.

This, very much so.  It's what has stopped me in the past.

[duc de potage]

I would quite like to run away from my (allegedly grownup) kids. Not because I'm desperately unhappy, but because they just won't leave home and I'd like some solitude.

[Peca]

Thanks for your thoughts
Do they pass? How long do you wait?
I know my extended family now have bigger worries than me, I can't find a way out of it at the moment.
I don't want to worry them more but have no-one else to turn to.

Should I take all my personal stuff and just leave? If the debt collectors cant contact me then no probs!

Have you been in contact with the CAB or CCC's regarding your financial situation? They might be able to help you set up a debt reduction plan with your creditors.

[Decima]

In my experience running away, literal and metaphorical, only makes things worse. Eventually you *have * to face up to things whether you like it or not, and the longer you've put it off and the more you try to resist the sh!ttier it ends up being. Debt is a prime example of this.

If you face it head on, battle your way through and eventually come out the other side, you'll not only save yourself grief in the long run, but you'll be proud of yourself for your ability to deal with it. Running away will just make you feel more negative about yourself.

Talk to debt people who know how to help. That's what they're there for. 

[dodgy]

Thanks for your thoughts
Do they pass? How long do you wait?
I know my extended family now have bigger worries than me, I can't find a way out of it at the moment.
I don't want to worry them more but have no-one else to turn to.

Should I take all my personal stuff and just leave? If the debt collectors cant contact me then no probs!

Have you been in contact with the CAB or CCC's regarding your financial situation? They might be able to help you set up a debt reduction plan with your creditors.

What is CCC's?
I have  done National Debt Line but they give you so much stuff its overwhelming.
CAB I am trying but cannot get  an appointment for 2 weeks

It all seems too much at  the moment and nothing can happen quick enough! My fault, I have left everything till the last minute and am now panicking.
Run - run for your life

[Wolfgang]

Should I take all my personal stuff and just leave? If the debt collectors cant contact me then no probs!

But presumably your debts will continue to collect interest and penalties in your absence so if/when they did find you you'd be worse off.  It may even be a criminal offence to change your identity for the purpose of evading creditors.

Imagine the loneliness and angst of suddenly isolating yourself from everything you know.   I agree with peca - try the Citizens' Advice Bureau first.

[Sorted]

I ran away for 9 years.   I went to Kuwait.  I had a blast, made some money,  built a cracking foundation for my career.  It sorted me out, or so I thought.

Then I came back - same sh1t different decade. 

It wasn't debt I was running from but thprincipally is the same.  It's my one big regret that I didn't have the nouse to sort it all out before I went. 

Debt problems must be hideous but you're certainly not alone in them.
Go onto the National Debt Helpline website.  It's free advice and I know of
a few people who've used it successfully.

Good luck.

[Sorted]

Ignore that  - i see now that you've already tried National Debt line.

[dodgy]

You can run away from lots of things, but you can't run away from yourself.

This, very much so.  It's what has stopped me in the past.

I tried to make a run for it last year - I packed the car with all sorts, after 2 days i ran out of cash and had nowhere to go but home again
I realised then  - it is me I am running away from

[dodgy]

I ran away for 9 years.   I went to Kuwait.  I had a blast, made some money,  built a cracking foundation for my career.  It sorted me out, or so I thought.

Then I came back - same sh1t different decade. 

It wasn't debt I was running from but thprincipally is the same.  It's my one big regret that I didn't have the nouse to sort it all out before I went. 

Debt problems must be hideous but you're certainly not alone in them.
Go onto the National Debt Helpline website.  It's free advice and I know of
a few people who've used it successfully.

Good luck.

YAY a good reason for running away - you made headway in your career and made shit loads of money - i need this
Tis a shame that when you came back all that rubbish was still there - why didnt you stay away, what made you come back?